Perhaps the most valuable saying that’s weaved its way through generations is ‘a problem shared is a problem halved’.
It expresses the idea that when facing difficulties, it’s useful to talk to someone about them.
In acute cases, it saves lives.
On a day-to-day basis, it’s how we navigate unavoidable challenges with the help of those around us.
But still, we often drag our feet. Why is that and how do we ask for help?
Why is asking for help so hard?
Research indicates that fear is the primary reason we don’t ask for help.
Psychology Today suggests the simple act can carry unfounded risks such as rejection, loss of social status and a loss of control.
But without putting ourselves in what seems like a vulnerable position and asking for help, our problems don’t go away on their own.
When you’ve taken the brave step to ask for help, it’s important to communicate your problem as clearly as you can. This means doing it face to face.
In fact, research suggests just trying to articulate a problem forces you to break your problem down so that others can understand it.
Try and be specific. It can be hard but the clearer you are, the better the support.
Accept Help and Show Appreciation
Family and friends are often fantastic resources. They often have our best interests in heart and also get a positive emotional reaction from helping.
Be open-minded to their advice if it feels right and express gratitude and appreciation for their care and concern.
Seek Professional Guidance
Some problems just feel too big to share with your family or friends.
That’s when professional help like a psychologist or counsellor can be beneficial.
No one knows this better than Dr Bill Griggs who experienced a traumatic response after working as a doctor during the 1999 East Timorese conflict.
‘’I had a full-blown post-traumatic stress situation, and I just couldn’t make it go away myself,’’ Dr Griggs said during his Hoap Journey Series.
‘’[The carer] gave me advice about how to deal with things so that I had strategies and ways to deal with things that allowed me to function.
‘’It’s never gone away, but it’s in a little box now and I can deal with it now.’’
‘’It made a huge difference to me. It allowed me to continue my career and helped me do a lot of good things.’
Seeking help is just one of many different ways to support your wellbeing.
How Hoap can help
Asking for help is one thing, recognising when help may be required is another. Hoap drives connection and support through providing leaders and talent with tools to facilitate meaningful connections and address wellbeing when things are getting a little tough.
If you’d like to find out more about these features in Hoap and to drive wellbeing and performance, join Hoap today.